Is it possible to fall in love with everyone? DANISH VERSION HERE
Does it really matter whom you are with, whom you choose to be in a relationship with ?
Isn’t it just about the effort you do?
Can you build up love as easily as you can break it?
Oh my word, I’ve philosophized about these questions so many times after my hubby through 21 years divorced me.
The man I met when I was 16 , the man I had children with and the only man I’ve known romantically as an adult.
Is it really true, that you grow apart or has it something to do with the effort ?
I have been divorced for over 6 years and have had a couple of relationships and each time it strikes me how essential the amount of effort has on the quality of the relationship.
It’s a bit like the Casino
If you are willing to risk a lot, you might win a lot, yea sure you can lose!
If you risk a little, you’ll win a little, and yeah you can lose as well, but then you don’t feel you’ve lost that much, do you?
BUT WHAT IF YOU WON?
Would you then regret you didn’t went for the big one, would you regret, that you didn’t won the big prize!
I believe that in one way or another this also applies to relationships and in general interaction between people
The more we dare to Invest the greater the benefit/prize we get when we win
And yes , we also risk losing
But isn’t it worth risking anything to get the big prize
Michael Jordan said: I miss all the shots I don’t take !
Is exactly the same with relationships
if you don’t dare to risk it all and give it all, you lose !
Well I’m afraid of getting hurt !
NO shit Sherlock !
aren’t we all!
Honestly, none of us want to be hurt and especially not when your heart is open and vulnerable.
But if you don’t make an effort, if you don’t even try, you’ve already lost.
You never lose by loving, you always lose by holding back love!
Love expands the more it is nurtured , cared for and given freely !
Love wither and die in both heart and soul when held back and it’s not getting the attention and care!
I’ve often wondered about people who are unfaithful and always said that if they behaved the same way towards their partner , they would probably have a different life and relationship.
What if you sent small juicy hot and sexy messages to your partner ?
What if you met with you partner at a secret place, like the Woods, a hotel or similar ?
What if you secretly called each other?
What if you surprised each other much more?
What if you spoiled your partner in the same way as you would with a lover or mistress ?
The grass is always greener the places it’s watered and fertilized !
And then back to my first question
Is it possible to fall in love with anyone?!
Yes, of course there has to be attraction, passion, chemistry and all that stuff but how do you create that?
Through action !
Yes we have more physical attraction to some than to others but if we don’t do something about it, it is just:
High energy between two people because we’re vibrating on the same channel !
But a relationship is only created by initiative and actions and must be maintained or else, both love and relationship will vanish.
I do believe you can build love just as fast as you can lose it, if you are willing , open and dare to invest in love !
But first and the most important thing is to love yourself.
The more you love yourself the more you are open to receive love
When you trust and believe that you are worthy of love then you will also be able to love more fully and receive love, letting it into your heart and your life
And yes we all have the fear, but if we want love in our lives, we must act in spite of fear and past experiences
It’s spring so let your self love blossom !