- With three little words, “BUT, WHAT IF”We project our doubts into our dreams and activate fear and more doubt.
“But what if I fail, or don’t make enough money or people laugh at me or it’s a bad idea.”Deal with it by separating your dreams from your doubts. Split a paper in half. On the top write out your dream and on the bottom your doubts, fears and any limiting beliefs. Choose which one you are more committed to. Hint: You can tell by the action you take or don’t take.
- “I’M NOT _____ ENOUGH” Good enough, smart enough, successful enough etc. Deal with it by breaking the pattern of negative self talk. Catch yourself in the act (or mid thought) and find something positive about yourself to affirm. Say it out loud and you get extra credit for taking action on your new empowering belief. This doubt is about inadequacy and limiting beliefs.
- “I’M TOO OLD TO PURSUE MY DREAM.”Deal with it by acting today on something that’s important to you to demonstrate you are serious. Here’s a short story that shows, “It’s never too late to make a dream come true.”
Anecdote: Bessie had been an amateur photographer for 25 years. Now at 70, she had a very clear dream. “I want to be a world famous, professional photographer,” she confessed. “I’m sure I need credentials and don’t want to go back to school at my age.” “Bessie, what’s really in your way?” I gently asked.
“Everyone is telling me I am too old,” she slumped. “They’re telling me to be realistic.”
“Nonsense,” I said. “What’s a step you can take to show that you are more committed to your dream than to their doubt?” She reflected for a moment and then her eyes lit up. “I know what I can do. I have an application sitting on my desk for a photo contest sponsored by Kodak. Just entering would have me prove to myself that I am serious about this.”
She took a stunning photograph of a man playing a sousaphone with golden tones of his instrument reflecting his bright red band uniform which she proudly sent it off to the Kodak competition, now mind you, along with 500,000 other entries.
Bessie won first prize which included a check for $10,000.00. “I ran out to get business cards printed,” she laughed. “After all, now I really am a professional.”
Her photograph toured around the world with the Journey into Imagination exhibit. She got the whole dream. “Bessie, what did you learn from this? What wisdom would you share?” I asked.
She looked me square in the eyes and said, “It’s never too late to make a dream come true.”
- “I DON’T HAVE ENOUGH MONEY.”Deal with it by exploring creative options including asking for help. People often say, “I don’t have enough money to make my dream come true.” But when I ask, “How much do you need?” the most common answer is, “I don’t know&but I know I don’t have enough.”
People often go further in life with passion and commitment than with gobs of money.
– First, figure out how much do you really need.
– Second, explore other options. Could you barter or trade? Is there a more creative way to do it that would require less money?
– Finally, who might invest in your idea? When you can inspire people to believe in you, the issue around “not enough money” can disappear. Be highly intentional, explore all possibilities and make every conversation count.
- “I DON’T HAVE ENOUGH TIME.” (Or “I’m over committed”)Deal with it by learning to say no. When you have a choice and someone asks you to do something that you don’t have to or want to do, say no, “thank you”. Big dreams die when we put them on our “to do” list. Turn big dreams into simple projects that you can easily accomplish one step at a time. Break it down into tasks and learn to ask for help.
Wow, was just talking to one of my friends going through some challenges and having a lot of turmoil inside of her.
I told her, that I believed that it would help her tremendously if she became more responsible for her own feelings, thoughts, and what she made things mean about her. Nothing in this world has a meaning except for the meaning you give it!
I know you can’t control whether you want to think or not, as well as you can’t control whether your heart beats or not. But you can control what you do with the thoughts you think.
Because your thoughts = feelings= actions= results
SO if you want to have different results in your life you have to start with the root cause of the problem = your thoughts
1. Stop blaming other people. Be responsible for making things happen
2. Listen more; talk less. You’re born with two ears and only one mouth!
3. Every day, do something nice. Start with yourself!
4. Strive for excellence, not perfection.
5. Be on time. Which means when you’re early, you’re on time. If you’re on time you’re late. If you’re late, it’s disrespectful! (woops, that’s really a reminder to myself as I’m almost always late. sorry)
6. Don’t criticize anyone for at least the next 24 hours. Not even yourself!
7. Be even kinder if you meet unkind people. Not everybody in this world have the knowledge you have, help them by being nice to them and show them there’s another option than the unkind way. SMILE!
8. Take time to be alone. Do something nice for youself, pamper and nurture yourself. (My favorite)
9. Admit it when you make a mistake. There are no such thing as a failure ONLY learning and feedback. (you become a bigger person by apologizing)
10. Let someone cut ahead of you in line. I promise you someone will do it for you one day.
11. Don’t make excuses. They are all just lies 🙂
12. Take a deep breath and just imagine you won the lottery and now show the World how you would celebrate. I would jump up and Down, dance like the crazy and scream YES from the top of my lungs – what would you do?
I dare you!
Your greatness affects the rest of the World, so let it shine.
Your greatness is my passion.